I am the first woman in my husband's life. And I am the only one. This is one of advantages of the arrange marriage. I have never met my husband before we get married accept for one time: when he came to my family home the day he asked to marry me. However, we fall in love with each other since that time! This is one of millions of marriages that are very common in my culture and very successful too. The rate of divorce in my country is very low compared with those in the western communities.
Even if they find an alternative, I believe that men cannot forget the first love. In this case a man might compare his wife with the woman whom he first loved. Besides, love before marriage is not necessarily associated with happiness. Where as love after marriage is mostly associated with happiness. Nothing is better than sharing your life and having a beautiful family with your love and forever.
Another aspect related to this issue is that love is very important for a successful marriage, but it is not the most important element. respecting and understanding your spouse is the key factors for a marriage success.
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I think you're right that love is not all that is important in a marriage. Mutual respect, understanding, a willingness to compromise: these are all very important too. I think that my cultural upbringing would have stopped me from accepting an arranged marriage, but my common sense stopped me from accepting as a husband a man that my parents didn't thoroughly approve of. I think my parents, if they had been in a situation to choose, would have chosen for me the man I have now.
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